Use one of the following moves when you go down on her, but don’t forget to experiment: try variations of each and make up new techniques!
Drawing circles with the point of your tongue is one of the most common, but exciting techniques for her. It’s better not to press too hard, since the clitoris is sensitive and you don’t want to injure it.
Make spirals starting outside and work inward. You can make them small, medium, or large, clockwise or counterclockwise.
A movement which is very simple and gives her great pleasure is the vertical (upwards and downwards). Though it’s easy to do, the biggest danger is that the man will speed up and do it too fast and with too much force. Do it with a flat tongue, and relaxed.
SIDE TO SIDE
Though this is the most difficult movement, it is the most pleasure-giving. The difficulty lies in avoiding a “superficial” cunnilingus; therefore, the tongue should caress and gently separate the lips. First, do it slowly and with light pressure. Once you have located the clitoris and excited it enough, then increase speed and pressure.
FIGURE EIGHT TECHNIQUE
To master it you must have enthusiastically practiced the preceding techniques so you do not readily lose control of your tongue. Being a slower movement than the “naughty circle” and being more sinuous, it is more unpredictable and therefore more exciting.
The figure-8 tongue technique: When you’re at her service down below, work the supersensitive area around her clitoris in a figure-8 pattern. Arouse her with gentle sucking until the little button swells, then carefully expose the area with your fingers. Use the slippery underside of your tongue to circle it to the left and then to the right. With the rougher top side of the tongue, flick from right to left and then up and down. Finally work up to figure 8s, alternating between your tongue’s smooth underside and firmer tip. Constantly vary the degrees of pressure you use.
- a) Spell out the alphabet with your tongue. You can make them wide to cover the whole vaginal area and/or make them small, focusing more on the clit. Variety of stimulation is key.
- b) Flatten your tongue and lap her up, from her perineum (the skin that runs from her anus to the opening of her vagina) to her clit. Mix it up with some more alpahbet licks.
- c) Lick the inside of her vagina while rubbing your nose around her clit. Get your whole face in there and shake it from side to side.
- d) Roll your tongue into a tube around her clit and slide it back and forth.
AND NOW FOR SOME FINGERS
- a) Place your mouth around her clit and suck on it while flicking it with your tongue. At the same time, insert your thumb into the opening of her vagina.
- b) Insert just the tip of your index finger into her vagina and move it around in circles. The spot just inside her opening is very sensitive.
- c) Rub your thumbs in little circles around the clit while licking the head with a pointed tongue.
- d) Insert your fingers deep inside her and make a “come hither” motion. This should hit her g-spot.
Try to draw the letters of the alphabet on your girl’s clit. This way there are a lot more ways to stimulate her!
HER TIP MASSAGE
Using the tip of your tongue, run it from above her clitoris (near her pubic mound) to the clitoris head itself—you should be able to feel a thin elastic “thread” running along this line, this is the equivalent of your penis’s frenulum (or banjo string). Now hook your tongue under the clitoris head and, pushing down, bring your tongue back up again. Her clitoris has a “hood” just like the foreskin on your penis, that can be pushed and pulled down and up—that’s what you’re doing with this move.
Using your thumbs to keep her lips apart, use the flat, middle part of your tongue on her clitoris. Rather than moving your tongue, repeatedly move your head and shoulders up and down an inch or so. She will inevitably begin to gyrate her hips in time with your movements or in a different rhythm. If she goes for the different option, just hold your head still and let her do the work.
HER ROUNDHOUSE LICK
This involves using a full range of motions. Because the clitoris has two “arms” that extend back into the vaginal lips (in terms of size, it’s actually bigger than the penis), you can bring a woman closer to orgasm if you stimulate her lips as well as her clitoris. With this move, lick in between her inner and outer lips from the bottom to the top and back down again on the other side; repeat until you feel dizzy, then do it anticlockwise. For many women, this will bring them to orgasm more easily because of the extra stimulation to their lips. But if your woman needs more direct clitoral action, gradually reduce the area you’re covering with your tongue, until you’re just rubbing her clitoris.
This isn’t actually a move, it’s a rule to live by when going down on your woman—licking her with a dry mouth is like kissing without lips: practically pointless.
Have a sip of water, suck on a mint, or chew gum—the latter will keep your breath fresh, give you more saliva, and give her a tingling minty sensation down below.
Sometimes you need to keep a straight face If she’s gyrating her hips like mad and you’re desperately trying to keep up, stop—just keep your head still! Sometimes you’re so, so close to bringing her to that sweet moment of orgasmic release, but because you’re not totally in tune with her body, you’re not quite getting there. If she’s gyrating in a certain way, keep doing whatever it is you were doing—or simply stop. By trying to change what you’re doing to adapt to her moves, you may be doing the opposite of what she needs. If you’re using an up and down motion and she’s circling her hips, for example, it may simply mean that she needs both those actions to hit the mark. Sometimes it’s easiest to keep your face in the same place and let her show you the kind of pressure and rhythm she really likes