Firstly, What To Do If He Has Trouble Finishing
It’s completely normal that some guys don’t orgasm easily during oral sex. It doesn’t mean that you don’t give good head. It’s also very similar to how some women have trouble reaching orgasm when their man is eating their pussy, during regular sex, or even when masturbating alone.
If your man has trouble finishing when you give him head, there are two main things that you can do to ensure he has an easier time finishing in the future.
1. Steady, Strong & Consistent
If he can’t orgasm easily during your blow job, then make sure to provide maximum stimulation to his penis while keeping your “stroke” as steady and consistent as possible. Consistency is key here. Otherwise, he will lose his concentration and find it harder to cum.
2. Get Him To Stop Masturbating
Some men use a strong, vice-like grip when masturbating that doesn’t accurately mimic your mouth or vagina. This is sometimes known as “Death Grip.” They always masturbate using this super-tight grip, and eventually, their penis adapts, requiring huge amounts of pressure and stimulation in order to climax. Then when you give him head, your mouth can only provide a fraction of the pressure that he uses when he masturbates. His penis will barely feel it, and he won’t get anywhere close to cumming.
It’s frustrating, but there is a solution…
If you want his penis to return to normal and for him to climax from less pressure, then get him to stop masturbating for a few months while you still have sex and oral sex together (even if he can’t cum from it).
Over time, his penis will adjust and become more sensitive when you give him head, allowing him to more easily cum and appreciate that you give the best head.
Some guys have trouble coming from partnered sex because they become conditioned to a certain stimulation style (even if this isn’t due to a death grip issue). So having him pause masturbating can help with that, too.
How To Tell When He Is Close To Orgasm?
One of the things many people ask even if they know how to give good head is, “How the heck am I supposed to know when my man is going to cum?”
It’s surprisingly straightforward!
If you are giving your man a BJ, but you don’t want him to finish in your mouth, or you want to time it perfectly so that you can give him a facial or have him cum elsewhere on your body, then knowing when he is close to orgasm is vital.
Here’s how to tell he is about to climax:
Start by listening to his breathing. You’ll notice that as he gets closer and closer to cumming, he’ll start breathing faster and taking shorter breaths.
Additionally, his body will begin to tense up. So if you have a hand on either his stomach or thigh or even in his hand, you’ll feel it starting to tense up.
Some guys start to get more vocal as they reach orgasm, but others remain quiet. It depends on your man.
You can probably notice that all these signs from his body are very similar to what your body does as it reaches orgasm.
Then once he begins to orgasm, his cock will start twitching or throbbing as he ejaculates.
Of course, some guys may announce it, which makes it easy for you to tell when he’s about to orgasm.
Incredibly Intimate Finish
Some believe that oral sex is a hot, but not a particularly intimate act.
The truth is that giving your man head can be insanely intimate if you make it intimate, and for some couples, this might be key to giving good head.
Hold his hands – Holding your man’s hands as you give him head feels somewhat intimate until he is about to cum. Then it feels incredibly close & intimate as he cums. His hands will squeeze yours as you make him blow his load.
Tell him how you feel – When your man is about to cum, take him out of your mouth and finish him off with your hands while telling him how much you love him and how much you enjoy making him cum.
Make eye contact – More on that below…
Look Into My Eyes
Making eye contact with him as he reaches orgasm can be an intensely intimate experience, especially when you consider the fact that men find oral sex more intimate than women do.
There is just something incredibly sensual, connecting, and intense about staring deep into his eyes as he climaxes and starts cumming. You may find it to be slightly submissive being on your knees, looking up at your man while you give him head. Or you may just enjoy the feeling of sexual power as you see him writhe in pleasure while you control him completely using only your mouth.
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