Circle the external tip of the clitoris with the tip of your finger to stimulate arousal, varying from smaller circles to larger ones. Alternate the pressure from light to heavy.
Pushing and pulling
Push down on the clitoris and make small push-and-pull strokes, and then slide your finger down the shaft of the clitoris. Do this on both sides of the shaft, keeping in mind that some people are more sensitive on one part of the clitoris than another.
Tugging and rolling
To tug the clitoris, pull it gently away from the body by grasping at the sides and tugging back and forth. You can also move lower and tug the sides of the lips. Keep varying strokes from the top of the clitoris down to the lips. To roll the clitoris, start by holding it firmly and rolling between the thumb and the index finger—kind of like you’re making a tiny violin motion with your fingers.
Using one or more fingers, tap the clitoris in varying rhythms from fast to slow to learn what the body responds to most.
After spending at least five minutes stimulating the clitoris with plenty of lube, ask your lover, “May I touch you inside?” Or, “May I enter your temple gates?” Or, “May I visit your secret garden?” Look directly into her eyes and, using your own words, ask for permission in your most adoring voice.
Staying on the outside of the vaginal canal is always a perfect option for either of you. If she does say no, it is often more about what’s going on inside her than your technique. “No” is a precious gift; tell her “Thank you,” and feel assured that in the future you can trust her “Yes.”
If she says yes, do not rush through the door. Linger seductively at the opening. Tease. Flirt. Picture her begging. Instead of friction, wait till you feel her sucking your finger into her essence. You may tell her, “Breathe me in.” And if you don’t feel a draw, wait. When ready (and with lots of lube), slowly penetrate her. Place one hand on her abdomen and slide one or two fingers all the way into the vagina, then hold still.
Use your sensate-focus skills, focusing your total attention on your bodily sensations. Notice the heat and moistness within this deep cave. With your whole hand, slide slowly in and out about an inch. How slowly can you move? Vibrate your hand lightly. Press in the four directions—upward, outward toward each leg, and downward—coming to the center and pausing a few seconds between each press.
G-Spot or Sacred Spot Massage
Pull your fingers back out to the second knuckle and curve them toward the pubic bone in a come- hither gesture, lightly stroking the top wall of the vagina. Feel for an area that is more spongy and wrinkly than the surrounding smooth tissue and about 1.5 inches inside. This sensitive area, about the size of a quarter, is connected internally to the clitoris. If the G-spot is touched before a woman is clitorally stimulated, it is engorged and hard to find, and she feels nothing, or it is even painful (think of the head of your penis). At first a woman may feel the urge to urinate, but with a couple of slow breaths, that will pass.
Once you have found the sacred spot (with her help), make small circles with the flat pads of your fingertips. Pause. Change direction. Pause. Try the doorbell. Press up firmly toward the top of the pubic bone, hold five seconds, then release five seconds. Ask her about the pressure. Repeat several times. Make a windshield-wiper stroke in the same fashion.
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Alternating Clitoral and G-Spot Stimulation
With one palm anchored on the pubic bone, use your fingers to manipulate the clitoris. Use your internal fingers or thumb of the other hand to massage the G-spot. Stimulate five to fifteen seconds on one spot, rest for a couple of breaths, then continue to stimulate the other spot. Resting your palm on the pubic bone helps her feel secure. Encourage your partner to feel her feelings and to breathe deeply.
To find the G-spot, curve your first two fingers like the letter C and slide them into the vagina. Feel for a slightly ridged area at the top of the vaginal canal, located about an inch or two in, behind the external clitoris. You can massage it by making a come hither movement with your curved fingers. Vary between fast and slow strokes. You can also tickle the external clit simultaneously at the tip, or place pressure on or above the pubic bone.
Make sure to mix up all of the above and vacillate between stimulating the clitoris in various ways while also involving the G-spot and nipples.
Vagina massage isn’t about having one orgasm. It’s about trying to feel more and more pleasure that will become waves of multiple orgasms throughout the massage. It can be done alone or done by a partner, either as an activity by itself or as a part of a sexual encounter involving other sexual acts like oral sex and intercourse.
How to practice edging through vagina massage.
Vagina massage is also a great opportunity to practice edging. The goal is to reach the edge of orgasm over and over again. When the body seems ready to explode, slow it down, pull away, and then build it back up again to create multiple waves of orgasms instead of just one.
During the cool-down periods, place your hand on the heart to help keep the body grounded, connected, and feeling loving energy. Then build the arousal back up to the edge of orgasm once again, and then back off and slow it down. The longer the back and forth, the more pleasure will be experienced.
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Other ways to explore.
Vagina massage helps to learn the basics of satisfying sex, which itself is a marvelous sexual practice that can open a whole new world of pleasures
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